My 2018 New Year’s Promise
I am not a huge fan of setting the cliché New Year’s resolution. For one, I pretty much break it immediately and two, once I fail my resolution, I feel like a loser.
I am ready to start 2018 with a renewed mindset. Instead of a strict “I want to lose 20 pounds by June,” or “I want to be the top blogger,” I feel like I need to set small, achievable, goals for certain aspects of my life. Not one huge goal or 1000 goals. A realistic amount that I can work on for most of 2018. Giving myself enough time and grace, so if I somehow get derailed, I know that I have an entire year to work toward achieving them. Once I knock out my small goals, I can work toward my bigger ones.
Here are my “realistic-a-f, crawl-before-I-walk, one step at a time, if I fall down I will get back up and keep trying,” New Year’s Promise. I’m going to break it down into categories. Myself, my blogging, my kids, my marriage, others and God.
- To be more kind to myself. I am my own worst critic. I can pick myself apart bit by bit and I’ll keep picking until I unravel. I will work toward more positive self-talk and being more gentle.
- Let go and let God. I am a total control freak. I need to control every aspect of my life and what goes on around me. Guess what? It is IMPOSSIBLE TO DO! So, this is where I need to let go and let things up to God more often. Yes, I pray. But, I am human and I do not always pray in the moments that I should. This year, I will work on praying in the moment and giving it up to the Man upstairs, rather than letting my control and anxiety get the best of me.
- To converse with my husband more. I know it may sound silly, but my husband and I go through life on fast-forward. It’s a daily hustle from wake to bed. Don’t get me wrong, we have time on the weekends where we’re away from the kids and we talk forever. But, during the week and during the day we are in our phones, tending to the kids and business. This is just a small goal of mine in 2018 to take some time out of each day to have meaningful conversation. Even if it’s asking him how he’s doing or telling him how my day is going. To have that daily small connection is key.
- To be more understanding with my kids. This is hard one. I tend to forget that I, too was once young. That I didn’t always have the right answer, my attitude wasn’t always great and everyone, even children, are allowed bad days. When my kids are two seconds away from losing their minds, I need to work on stepping back and not losing my mind with them. I want to try to understand what their frustration and hurt is about and work toward making it better.
- To devote more time to blogging. I am still a fairly new blogger, (and I’m going to milk the “new” card for the first 5 years). I want to do more, write more and reach more people. When I first started blogging, I wanted instant-success. But one thing that blogging has taught me, more than anything, is that you have to be patient and to keep going. So I will continue to work through 2018 to give blogging more of my time.
- I want to devote more time to helping others, (I already have a plan in motion that you’ll hear about it in the near future). I am a giver. I want to give more and do more for those in need and I want my kids to follow suit.
These six things are my small goals; there isn’t anything on here that I cannot achieve. Everything will take work, but I will work on these throughout 2018. For the first time ever, I am going to print these out and post them as a reminder to myself. I want to be a better, well-rounded me in 2018. If I work on these few goals, the rest will fall into place.
What is your realistic, baby-steps, crawl-before-you-walk, New Year’s Promise?