I like to write about my relationship with my husband from time to time. Do you remember the song, “Opposites Attract” by Paula Abdul? That pretty much sums the two of us up! I am wild, he is not. I have a big mouth, he does not. I have a lack of filter, he has total control. I am an anxious -Annie, he is cool, calm and collected. I am impulsive, he is methodical. I always want to be doing something outside of the house, while he is content with being home. I live for tequila, and he loves a good Moscow Mule.
We could not be more opposite, but I think that is what makes us perfect for one another. The one thing we both have in common is something that fuels our marriage and maximizes our time together. We both like to try new things, and are always down for a new adventure. Stepping out of the norm fuels our fire. When we find something new to do together that we love, we call it “our thing.” Learning something new brings us closer to one another, because we both have a clean slate and start from ground zero.
No one is an expert, which allows us to teach each other, learn from each other, make mistakes together, be dependent upon one another, and we ultimately grow as a couple.
What sort of new ventures do we tackle together?
Racquetball: Six years ago, we started playing racquetball together. It was our fun time. We bought our little rackets and would go up to the Bellevue Club and play for an hour. It was fun because neither one of us was that great, (but of course he was better than me), ha! He would show me a few tricks he learned and I’d show him how I can adapt to his tricks and still score! We started off with a small adventure and it continued to grow from there.
Hiking: Last year we started hiking together and it was a challenge for us both, but we always love a good challenge. We devoted time to hike together every week. We both enjoyed the “unknown” about hiking. We didn’t know if it was going to rain, be muddy, if the trail would be extra rocky or know how long it was going to take to get to the top of the mountain… and we loved it! We would sweat together, trip over rocks together and get lost together. When I wanted to stop, he pushed me to keep going and when he didn’t feel like hiking I encouraged him to go. Week after week, as we tackled each mountain, we were so proud of ourselves as a couple.
Snowboarding: Our most recent and probably most challenging adventure has been snowboarding. Marcus went once before I started, but he never expressed interest in doing it again. His cousin and his wife, (his wife is pretty much a pro) invited us to Mt. Hood to snowboard. Marcus wasn’t thrilled, but I knew this could be the start of another bonding experience for us. Snowboarding on Mt. Hood was a tall order, (literally) but we decided to do it together. Mind you, we fell down the mountain so much that we could barely move the next day, but we fell together, haha!
Over time, snowboarding has become “our thing.” The more skill he picks up, the more he teaches me. We continue to learn together, encourage each other and grow our skills together; now I’m pretty sure we are both addicted. It is such an adventure to sneak away and go hit the slopes together. As a matter of fact, for our 10th wedding anniversary, guess what we did? Snowboarding!
All the stories above are examples of what we do to keep our relationship fresh. There is something about starting a new adventure with the one you love that brings you closer together. We both get excited and look forward to doing “our thing.” Spending time together outside our normal environment works for us and is needed to keep our marriage fresh. The more we try, the more we have in common, and the more we bond. After we finish hiking or snowboarding, we often look at each other and give each other a high-five, because we both know we are one bad-ass couple and are down for any
Cheers to more learning, growing and loving together!