“Ever since she married that football player and got some money, she’s changed,” the classic hater’s line. It’s like their go-to line when they can’t handle who I am or what I’ve become; people will pick at anything and everything. Saying things like, “Ooo, she wears too much makeup, she dresses up too much, and she’s so extra! She didn’t used to be like that.”
Let me fill you in on a little secret… I have ALWAYS been FABULOUS!
*In my Jay-Z voice:* Allow me to reintroduce myself! My name is Jessica, and I came out of my mother’s womb three weeks late. I came when I wanted, on my terms, taking full control of when my birthday was going to be. If that’s not the most FABULOUS way to enter the world, then I don’t know what is!
I started sharing my FABULOSITY with everyone from a very young age. I would entertain at all of my mother’s parties, singing and dancing. I lived for a good dress, a pair of earrings and some fancy shoes. I would prance around in my mother’s high-heels and would not miss a BEAT!
As I got older, not much changed. I just continued to grow in height and in FABULOSITY. Dressing over the top was just in my nature; I would literally CRY when I had to wear jeans. I always wanted to wear dresses, skirts, tights and heels. I was still entertaining, but on a larger scale. I had a larger-than-life personality and I channeled it by acting in local plays and singing in multiple choirs.
By the time I was in high school, I was wearing my mother’s BUSINESS SUITS to school! I am not kidding. I walked around in my heels from Volume Shoe Source and you could not tell me that I wasn’t cute! At that point, I knew I was “different.” I couldn’t quite put my finger on what made me different, but I knew I was. I was always changing my hair, dying it, cutting it, frying it… you name it, I did it. I started wearing acrylic nails, lip gloss and blush. I will never forget this one time in high school when a girl wanted to fight me. We were sent to the principal’s office and he asked her why she didn’t like me. She replied simply, “I don’t know why I don’t like her. I just don’t.” I had done absolutely nothing to this girl, so for her not to like me, for no reason, really hurt me. I just didn’t understand.
Once I became an adult, I finally figured out what made me different, what made me stand out and why that girl wanted to beat me up for no reason… because I was FREAKIN FABULOUS! Now, once I realized this, my life has never been the same.
I started owning my FABULOUSNESS. I was blessed and FABULOUS enough to meet and marry the man of dreams, who just happened to play in the NFL. The only thing that changed about me once I got married was my last name. To this day, I continue to wear makeup and dress over-the-top as I please, and now I get to entertain and be “extra” through my blogs.
To all those FABULOUS people out there, no matter what age you are, OWN YOUR FABULOSITY! Do not be afraid to be exactly who you are. Don’t dial down your makeup, how you dress or your personality for ANYONE!!
Your FAB FIVE MOM!