I’m pretty sure the school year, for me, ended last month. As a parent, I have mentally checked out and started my own summer break.
During the year, I go bananas making sure all of my kids’ homework is done. This always includes their daily reading, bible verses are memorized and projects are finished. I am like a sergeant when I drill them about their homework, grades and being on top of things. I feel like a broken record everyday after school. “Did you finish your homework? Do your homework! Did you finish your homework?”
I completely stress myself out trying to make sure all of them are academically in-check and that I am on top of EVERYTHING. I put so much pressure on myself as a mother, to be the perfect school mom, the perfect after-school-mom, the perfect mom, period. Well, guess what? Sometimes, (actually a lot of the time) I fall short. Falling short drives me BATTY.
Toward the middle of last month, I am not sure how it happened, but falling short no longer drove me insane. Mentally, I fully entered “summer vacation” mode. I know teachers always talk about how checked-out their students are toward the end of the school year. Well, apparently some parents check-out, too! I exert so much energy into the school year; by about May, I am pretty much done with my kids going to school.
I no longer ask about homework. I’m not even sure they have homework; I ain’t checked their backpacks in weeks. Do they even take their backpacks to school? When it comes to school work, I have been saying things like, “that’s good enough” and “just turn it in tomorrow.” I have forgotten to pack them lunch and I have forgotten to order food to pack their lunches. I think I gave one of my kids the crumbs from the bottom of a Doritos bag… I was at peace with it.
Don’t get me started about cooking. I would try to cook a balanced dinner at least three times per week, to fuel them for the next day. For the last week, we have had more frozen chicken nuggets than I would care to share; I am DONE trying to balance their meals.
I have relaxed on their bed time a bit as well… Okay, maybe more than a bit. I think I heard my children up at 11:00 pm last night. I am usually all over them about going to bed early to wake up less exhausted. But, you know what? I have officially started my summer break and I am not going to waste my energy by fighting them to go to sleep. If they are tired in the morning, I am almost positive that I don’t care.
Lately, I have been having a hard time waking up in the morning, so it has been a complete rush trying to get to school on time. When I walk them to class, I usually give extra hugs and kisses, but this past week I think I barely walked them to the door, gave them a high-five and peaced-out.
As for their uniforms, I am usually a stickler for how they are worn or how stained they are. I freak out when the sleeves are dirty and there are spots on their shirts. Now that I am on my summer break, I think they have been wearing the same dirty shirt and skirt for two weeks, straight. As a matter of fact, my six-year-old came downstairs the other day and did not even have a uniform top on under her jumper and I was clearly unbothered.
There are one and a half of days left in this school year and I think there will be wine in my mug on the very last day. I deserve it!
Cheers to the parents that are just like me and have already started their personal summer break! Just know that you are not alone! You do not have to share with others that you have been mentally checked out for the past 30 days. After all, that’s what I am here for! To say what a lot of us parents are actually thinking!
Schooooooool’s out for summer!
Here is a cute video of my girls talking about school, summer. break and mommy’s dancing!