The cliché saying, “There is no ‘I’ in team” sounds cheesy, but it is so true. In my 11 years of marriage, I have learned that teamwork really does make the dream work.
Marcus and I had not been together for very long and had one child before we got married. Essentially, we were still getting to know one another and had not formed a team yet. I truly did not understand the level of teamwork that would be needed in the future.
Side note: Ladies and gents, when you are dating, I suggest you figure out whether or not you are dating a team player. I recommend going on a date which requires some teamwork and problem-solving. If they do well, they are a keeper. However, if they are not a team player… ditch ’em. Ha!
In the beginning of our team building, having only one child, I was not really a team player. I wanted to do everything myself. I hardly gave Marcus the opportunity to work with me, because I thought I had it figured out. He watched on the sidelines, all suited up, and if I needed an emergency assist he was there. Marcus is a serious hands-on dad, but at the time, I was most certainly putting an “I” in team.
After popping out a couple more kids I quickly realized I wasn’t being a team player and I needed more than an occasional assist. I needed an equal partner and so did he. Thus, “Team Tru” was born; the true dream team. I could NOT, and I repeat, COULD NOT do what I do and vice versa without Marcus’ help. We work together to tackle life’s everyday battles like a machine. Sometimes a rusty machine with parts falling off, but never-the-less, a machine.
Here’s how Team Tru works:
While Marcus is out doing drop-offs and pick-ups, I am with the younger kids or vice versa. On cheer competition days, while I am running one daughter around, he is sitting in a sparkle-filled cheer wonderland with the other. When he goes to the grocery store, I cook dinner. He takes the garbage out, I make sure everything gets put in the garbage. I attend one kid’s soccer game, while he runs another kid to practice. When we’re out of town, he plays with the little ones in the water and I watch the older ones in the sand. When he has a last minute meeting, I step in and take over wherever he has left off. When I am dead-tired and need a nap, he plays with the kids. When he needs a nap… wait. I honestly don’t think he sleeps. Haha! You catch my drift.
To some, it may sound like a no-brainer, but you would be surprised how many women think “It is my job to do everything pertaining to the kids, AND take care of my husband.” Even more so because I am a stay-at-home mother. You would not believe how many WOMEN have criticized me for remaining the “I” in team. I will never forget when Marcus was playing in the NFL, I was talking to some wives and they were literally appalled that my husband did his own laundry, that I did not cook every dinner, and that when he came home from practice he had daddy-duties. It was my job, and my job only, to do it all because he worked all day.
No. No. No, my friends. That is not teamwork.
The beautiful thing about it all is Marcus is a natural team player. He wanted to be involved in every aspect of the kids’ lives, even when he was playing. He wanted to do drop-offs, he wanted to be there at every cheer competition… he wanted to be there for everything, and still does.
He even goes beyond the chaotic day-to-day teamwork. He helps me plan and problem-solve as well. It is never a, “Figure it out yourself” situation. It is always, “Don’t stress yourself out. Let’s make a plan, I’ve got your back.” We rely on each other and count on one another to get the job done.
I would not be able to do what I do, and vice versa, without working together with Marcus as a team. We have each other’s back, no matter what. We are always mindful of each other’s time and try our best to make everything we do run smooth for each other, because that is what you do when you’re on a team. It makes life that much more smooth when you know there will always be someone that is there to assist you and to be an equal partner with you in life.